“Quit Living the Arrival Myth”

The Arrival Myth is a notion that if you just suck it up long enough,
keep your mouth shut, work your ass off, hit it big and make it, then
you can do good in the world/ live your dreams/ do what you’ve
always wanted to do. Sorry to burst your bubble, but this Myth has
got to go. Here are just a few reasons:

You will never be successful doing what you’re doing now if you’re
only doing it in order to do what you’re really called to do later. It’s
a myth. It doesn’t work. The Arrival represents some mythical payday
in the future with all of the trappings of success: the f-you money,
the status, the prestige, the power, the boat, the car, the McMansion,
the enlightenment, the new relationship, the trips, the better body….
all the things that you’re imagining as a result of some future payday.
The investment banker who-hates-his-job-and-secretly-wants-to-be-
a-writer-but-can’t-quit-yet-because-he-has-a-mortgage-cars-
obligations-kids-in-private-school … will never get his imagined
payday.

One reason you can’t misalign your life to success is that you’re
swimming against the current of the universe. Life is calling you to
a unique and authentic expression. When you fight the flood, it costs
you energy. And the less energy you can bring to your tasks, the less
effective you are. It’s true that you can suck it up, stuff it inside, and
fight your way to “the top.” But that method comes with a great cost
in joy, presence, and peace of mind. It’s a hollow victory. And even t
hen, the odds aren’t in your favor.

The universe tends to reward those who align with it. When you are
misaligned, you lose power, creativity and stamina, and so you’re not
as effective. Your internal and external rewards will be correspondingly
lower. So rather than working towards a distant payday when you’ll
finally “arrive,” the solution is to align with your authentic core now
and bring those qualities into your work and life RIGHT WHERE YOU
ARE. I’ll explain more about this in the 7 Days to Align Your
Life for Success course.

And even if you are fortunate enough to beat the odds and hit your
imagined payday, it’s likely that you still won’t make the leap to do
what you truly want to do. Hey, if you ever want to meet a really
depressed person, talk to the entrepreneur who just sold her
company for $500 million after working on it for 20 years. While
the world is celebrating her achievement, she’s irritable and
depressed, even as she flaunts a public smile. Why? Because her
entire life and persona were entwined with growing the business –
now she has everything and nothing at once.

Another reason you won’t make the leap from what you were
doing before the big payday to what you always wanted to do
is that any big payday is never really enough. There are always
more demands and needs for more money, status and power.
So after a brief hiatus where you can sail your boat/drive your
motorcycle/play golf/whatever, you’ll likely continue on “just a
little longer” doing what you’ve always done and secretly
dreaming to do something else. Except now you’re no longer
quite sure what it is. Each day you spend doing something
other than expressing your true calling, it becomes that much
harder to get back on the authentic path. You lose sight of
what’s most important. Your persona begins to mask your true
essence. Pretty soon, you can’t imagine your life without the
trappings of the external success you’ve spent the past many
years accumulating. Your house becomes your prison.

To sum it all up, you can’t reach your goals by choosing a
path today that is misaligned with your authentic core in a vain
attempt to “arrive” and pursue your true dreams later. It doesn’t
work. Quit deluding yourself that it can.

The solution to quit living the Arrival Myth is to first get clarity on
your authentic core. You can get this clarity right now when you
register for a free email course: 7 Days to Align Your Life for
Success. This simple but insanely powerful course will provide
clarity into your authentic core. Once you’re clear on your
authentic core, I’ll show you how to align your business in
support of it. When you do this, and with a little maneuvering,
a crazy thing starts to happen — your business starts to grow
faster and you have more joy, meaning, and satisfaction across
the board.